Why You Should NOT Bust the Windows Out His Car
If you are a millennial like myself
(someone born between 1981-1997) it is safe to say that you have been through a
breakup (or a few). Again, if you’re anything like myself in my earlier years
these breakups would be accompanied by a pint of ice cream, a few good movies,
and a playlist that could make the toughest of men cry.
You know it’s real when you start
to delete the sweet texts, change the relationship status on Facebook, and
delete the number (even though you know it by heart…it’s really psychological).
Everything reminds you of this person and the good times you shared and then
slowly but surely, you kinda just get over it. Your song comes on Pandora and
you actually let it play all the way through without throwing stuff. You have
even graduated a bit by unblocking them on all social media outlets. I must
admit breakups are hard but manageable and in due time everything will be “back
to normal” …whatever that is.
Ohhhhhh but then you have another
type of breaker upper. We know her…and some of you are her (no judgement lol).
She’ll cry with her girlfriends for a few days, Ben and Jerry will become
confidants, Jazmine Sullivan’s Bust the
Windows is her new anthem, but her goal is REVENGE. You know what they say,
“hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”.
So, now you’re plotting his demise all the while this fool
is smiling from ear to ear (with his pretty teeth lol) on social media enjoying
life….and you my friend?? You are miserable. I’m going to share 3 reasons why
you should NOT bust the windows out his car (or any other property or bodily
damage):
1)
If your response to a break up is breaking some
stuff up, then the relationship probably wasn’t
healthy in the first place. Hear me out…Most likely you saw some red flags
in the relationship but you ignored them and now that everything has come to
light you’re angry. You’re angry that you didn’t go with your gut feeling and
now everyone must pay. There are levels to this (these are things I have seen
and have not done lol). Let’s use cheating as an example.
You have the social media level. This
includes a status, sometimes a pic too, which says something like “I hope yall
happy together” or I can’t believe I wasted the best years of my life blah blah
blah.
Then the next level is reaching out to all
parties involved. Through your Inspector Gadget/Catfish investigation skills you
find the other parties and you decide to let them know who they are dealing
with.
The last level is the quiet storm. This
lady will key the car, bust the windows, bleach the clothes, and send picture
proof to anybody with a phone number and/or Facebook account…yikessss!
Listen, if this is your response you know
goodness well you should have never been in it. Any man that takes you out of
your character like that was never good for you. And any time you allow a
situation to get that type of response out of you also lets us know you
probably weren’t emotionally stable enough to be in the relationship in the
first place. So in reality you shouldn’t be mad, you should be grateful.
2)
Reason number 2 why you shouldn’t bust the
windows out his car is: BECAUSE YOU KNOW
BETTER! You are beautiful, intelligent, fashionable, and classy…you know
there are better ways to release your anger/hurt. I know the situation may have
been rough but truth is, tearing stuff up will have you looking crazy and
catching a case and aint nobody got time for that.
3)
Reason number 3 why you absolutely should not
under any circumstances break up anything, is because you understand no one
needs to have that much power over you. Let me explain. I get a good chuckle
when I hear someone say, “Ugggggghhhhhh that make me so mad”. My internal
response is, “how can someone MAKE you mad?”. Why does this person have the
ability to alter your emotions and responses? Because you have a revelation of
who you are, you also understand that no one deserves that much power.
After my breakup, working out
became my best friend. I needed to release all that pressure. I didn’t take to
social media, I didn’t dog him because he is a great man (which is why we were together
in the first place), and I didn’t drown my sorrows in ice cream while listening
to “Another Sad Love Song” x Toni Braxton. I read so many new books, I changed
up my hair, I continued with life, but most of all I prayed. I know that sounds
silly to some but I serve a God who can heal cancer. You mean to tell me you
believe He can heal terminal illness but can’t fix a break up bahahahahahaha.
Honey, the Lord got me all the way together at a 5 a.m. prayer. My ex and I are
best friends and I didn’t tear up anything.
**BONUS** Ladies, stop dogging men after
breakups because ultimately you look silly for choosing him. By dogging him you
are revealing your lack of discernment and judgment of character. Wise women
seek out accountability partners not sharing all over social media accounts.
Ok, I’m out! Thanks for your support we have reached over
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Subject: No Busted Windows. See you next week!
Coach Jaleesa
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