Sorry! I Won't Be Silent
Hello my Saved, Single, and Successful Readers!!!!!
I hope everyone is having
a great day so far! Now, let’s get to it. The NBA finals are over and the
Warriors took a “L” in a very close game to King James and the Cavs. Chile, I was clutching my pearls the whole game. It was so close!
In the beginning, the
series looked as if Steph Curry and the Warriors would bring the title back
home for a second time. After game 6, the Warrior fans weren’t so sure anymore.
No one in NBA history had ever come back from 3-1 in the finals and win the
whole thing. It was sooooo unbelievable that Ayesha Curry, wife of Warriors’
Star Steph Curry decided to tweet about it.
Well, there were a few
people that didn’t take kindly to Mrs. Curry’s view on this matter. Some among
the opposing view was Stephen A. Smith, co-host of ESPN’s First Take. Here were
his words:
“If that was Savannah, LeBron’s wife, if that
were Gloria, LeBron’s mother, what would we be saying? LeBron James has a mom
and has a wife and has kids, great guy, an even greater ambassador of the game
of basketball than Steph Curry because he’s done it over the test of time, a
wonderful beautiful father, and I got news for you: As beautiful as everybody
wants to say Ayesha Curry is—and she is—Savannah is something special. I’m here
to tell you something right now. Ain’t a man alive, particularly a black man,
that’s going to look at LeBron’s wife and not say that that woman's gorgeous.
She’s wonderful inside and out. She sits there and she doesn’t bring any
attention to herself. She never tweets and goes out there and calls out the
league and stuff like that and nobody is more scrutinized than her husband. But
yet, she thinks about how she represents him, and as a result, she doesn’t do
that.”
There were more words exchanged, blah blah blah, you get the point. Some suggested that Ayesha needed to “stay in her place”, some argued that she did the right thing. How do we as outspoken, articulate, educated women sit back and not say something when we are affected? Let’s talk!
I’m going to present both sides. Feel free to share which side you agree with and why.
STAY IN YOUR PLACE!
I have never been married
so my views on this may be a little off. Married ladies, if I’m wrong please
correct me. One day I desire to be Mrs. _______________ and please believe that
my man will be in a position of power. In my mind power attracts power lol so
I’m speaking it. There will be days when bae comes home and he will vent about
all the things that went wrong and how Connie in production is inadequate and
how Joe steals coffee cups, etc. In that moment, it is not my job to put on my
counseling hat and dissect the issues but merely, to listen and console while
probably rubbing his back. Our men don’t need us to defend them. Our men
need/want us to listen, support, pray, and sit pretty lol (most of them
anyway).
Before I go any deeper in
this subject matter let it be known I am #TeamCurry I love Steph and what he
represents and I love Ayesha and how she rides for her man. Their children are
breathtaking and they all seem to be great people.
Ok, back to my point.
Here is the issue with Ayesha’s tweet. Yes, she was heated! Yes, she was upset!
And yes, she is human. However, when you are a powerful woman like Ayesha and
the women who are reading this blog you have to understand the influence you
have. This beautiful wife and mother of
2 princesses spoke against the very entity that pays her bills. The same group
that named her husband MVP. Now, it’s rigged all of a sudden when Steph is not
showing up on the court. I love Steph but I was very disappointed by his finals
performance.
When you have power you
understand the weight of your words and that people listen when you speak. When
you are powerful you understand that you are being watched and judged for
everything you say, do, and tweet. Was Ayesha wrong for being upset? Absolutely
not! Could she have vented to her family or even Steph later? Maybe. Did she do
more damage than good? Possibly lol.
“Staying In Your Place” is not being dumb or not having an opinion. This position is not one of weakness but humility. This “place” is making sure that you don’t make it hard for your man no matter how strongly you feel about it. It takes a stronger person to bite their tongue, fools always make noise (not calling her a fool). So Mrs. Curry I understand you are a ride or die but uuuummmmm boo, just ride quietly while your man drives lol.
I
Won’t Be Silent
On the other hand, there
are some who say Ayesha did what any woman would do. “Right or wrong, she has
an opinion and if Steph ain’t tripping nobody else matters”. That was one of
the arguments I heard. My sister in
Christ, Charity Israel, who is another beautiful, articulate, and outspoken
woman responded to my question I posted on Facebook with the below response. I
agree with this viewpoint as well!
We live in a world where
Beyonce can write music that alludes that her husband is a cheater (it could be just music but…*sips tea*). And the response is “good for her”, “yes Beyyyyyyy”,
and “Speak your mind, Queen”. But when a woman, in a heated moment tweets
something, deletes it, and apologizes, she is wrong, disrespectful and needs to
stay in her lane.
One of the greatest gifts
we have is our voice. We have the ability to calm the inner rage of our men
(speaking to the married folk lol), the ability to soothe a cranky baby, and
the knowhow and tenacity to command a room if needed. Quiet? For what?
Ayesha was not trying to
bring anything against her man, she was simply an upset NBA wife who had a
moment and 140 twitter characters to spare.
My
thoughts:
Just because you have an opinion does not mean you
have to always share it. I could be the smartest person in the room, but I may
choose to smile and nod while others talk and flex their intellectual muscles.
It doesn’t make me silly, it makes me wise. A wise woman knows when to speak
and when to be silent. She knows that she is a representation of her family and
her actions directly affect them. She thinks before she speaks, acts, and
tweets (just poking fun lol). She never wants to embarrass, emasculate, or
intimidate. Don’t get it twisted, she is not a “yes man (woman)”. She has an
opinion and will voice it if asked or needed. She is not a puppet either. She
just chooses her battles.
Signed,
Signed,
An
Educated Boss Chick with an Opinion
Coach
Jaleesa
Feel free to chime in
below, via Facebook, or email at coachjaleesa@gmail.com.
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