Happy Wife, Happy Life

*Warning* This Blog contains spoiler alerts from NBC's, "This Is Us". There’s this saying that the old folk live by that goes, “you gotta start out the way you can hold out”. I’ve seen a lot of them use it in the realm of courtship. This is their way of saying “don’t do now, what you’re not willing to continue to do later. In simpler terms, remain consistent in the things you did in the beginning. In millennial terms, “keep that same energy”. Got it? Good. While I understand the intent of these sayings I also think we have to take into consideration that people change, scenarios change, and we have to calculate how those subtle (or not so subtle) changes alter who we are as people and partners. First of all, can we all just take a moment to appreciate the writers of This Is Us. My eyes literally stayed glued to the screen. Partly because the acting was amazing, partly due to the younger characters having nailed the mannerisms of their older counterparts, bu...

Hello, my name is Jaleesa and this is my daughter, Alisa a.k.a Bean. This picture was taken on Saturday, November 3rd (exactly 10 weeks postpartum (after birth)).  While people tell you all the things to do to get ready for baby (baby proof, baby shower, babymoon, etc), they aren’t quite as vocal concerning postpartum and the feelings attached to it. They say, “sleep when she sleeps” but when your family leaves and you don’t have as many hands around the house that turns into “wash the dishes while she sleeps”, “fold clothes while she sleeps”, “bathe while she sleeps”.  Now before you say it... Yes, I am married and my husband is a very hands-on father. HOWEVER, I also try to take into consideration that he is the only one working so I don’t want to overload him as soon as he walks in the door.  I said all that to say, with all the changes that a woman goes through during and after pregnancy, people should really take into consideration the things the...

I believe that sometimes we speak without realizing how silly we may sound. Then there are some of us who say silly things and see absolutely nothing wrong with it. Do you boo, do you! But do you over there lol. While sometimes you may think you’re helping, you’re actually doing more damage. So unless an expectant mother asks for advice directly, it may be safe to keep it to yourself. Here are some of the things I’ve heard so far that have made me scratch my head, roll my eyes, and think “are you serious?” 1)       It’s not that serious or calm down These are words I hated before getting pregnant so now that I’m carrying my sweet baby these words make my skin crawl. You cannot tell someone how to feel about something, especially if 1) they’ve never experienced it before or 2) its coming from a genuine place of love and concern. There are no “do overs” in life so excuse me if I’m cautious. When you have dealt with childhood trauma you’re a little bi...

I haven’t written since the end of September. I am one who knows when to step back and breathe for a second. I needed to regroup. I’ve wanted to write since December but there was only one thing that had my full undivided attention and that was the baby growing inside of me. Sooooo of course I couldn’t write about baby Robinson until we could announce. I have to tell you guys how we found out and the emotional roller coaster that surrounded the whole ordeal. Let’s go back to December 28 th . Christmas with family was a blast; we had gotten back home to Florida to change out our traveling bags. We would bring in the New Year in Houston. You know me; I had the itinerary set for weeks. Beyonce’s House, Rockets/ Lakers Game, Joel Osteen’s Church, the Galleria, Corpus Christi to see the Selena Museum…we were ready! We left Thursday night and drove straight to Corpus Christi because the museum is not open on the weekends so we had to catch it on that Friday. Let me tell y’all, B...

“Jaleesa, we weren’t trying to make a baby. Babe, please don’t take this as if your body failed you”. I could hear the words my husband was saying to me and they made sense, but why couldn’t I stop the tears? Let’s go back a little bit. “Is she pregnant?” If I had a dollar for every time I heard this when we were preparing for our wedding, we could have had 2 honeymoons. No, we weren’t getting married because we were pregnant, we were getting married because we loved each other, we were ready, and I didn’t want to continue to fall into the sin of fornication. Because we prepared our entire wedding in a span of 7 weeks it was not shocking to me that people thought I was pregnant, but that was not so. It was actually the opposite. Brandon and I decided early on that we would wait at least 2-3 years before welcoming Baby Robinson, because there were certain things we wanted to accomplish first. We wanted our children to be planned, we wanted to prepare for them in every way,...

*Takes a deep breath* What’s wrong with sex? A lot of people seem to be bent out of shape about it…so let’s talk about it. Before we get started, let’s talk about my personal views on sex so we can draw comparisons and differences. Also, let me say that I am a believer of the Holy Bible so if your views are different, then this may not be a post that you will find enjoyable. However, proceed if you would like 😊 1) Sex is not a sin. However, the sin is fornication. I will not be ignorant and assume that we all know what fornication is. Fornication is sexual intercourse between people not married to each other. 2) Sex was created for pleasure and procreation between married people. I personally believe sex is worship unto God when married. 3) Just in case you don’t know me personally: I am married now (hence the name of the blog), but I did spend a couple of years STRUGGLING with fornication. So, I am not a married person who looks down on singles and say, “Why can’t you j...