Happy Wife, Happy Life

*Takes a deep breath* What’s wrong with sex? A lot of people seem to be bent out of shape about it…so let’s talk about it. Before we get started, let’s talk about my personal views on sex so we can draw comparisons and differences. Also, let me say that I am a believer of the Holy Bible so if your views are different, then this may not be a post that you will find enjoyable. However, proceed if you would like 😊 1) Sex is not a sin. However, the sin is fornication. I will not be ignorant and assume that we all know what fornication is. Fornication is sexual intercourse between people not married to each other. 2) Sex was created for pleasure and procreation between married people. I personally believe sex is worship unto God when married. 3) Just in case you don’t know me personally: I am married now (hence the name of the blog), but I did spend a couple of years STRUGGLING with fornication. So, I am not a married person who looks down on singles and say, “Why can’t you j...

Look at us! All in love and stuff...absolutely clueless (still clueless in most areas), excited, and just living in the moment. We left our wedding debt free...that was very important to us. Small ceremony, immediate family, mom's dress,...everything PAID IN FULL. Money management was always important to me...and Money, Power, Respect is more than just a song featuring Lil' Kim and DMX. MONEY I have to admit, I had it all wrong. I always thought it was suppose to be my account, his account, then our account. I would take care of this bill and that bill, he would take care of rent and the others. We would both put away to savings and tithes and offering. The rest? We could spend on whatever we want. If the purchase was over a certain amount we had to discuss it first (this was a “rule” we made before marriage). Let me go back a little bit… Before we got married I was not working a “traditional job”. I was coaching full time which included vision board parties, s...

I’m staring at you…you’re staring at me. The first to blink is the loser…my eyes are watering…I don’t know how much longer I can hold it. *Sigh* welp that was cool while it lasted but apparently clothes don’t blink in a staring contest and no matter how long I stare at them they won’t fold themselves. *shrugs* I’m over here feeling like Tamela Mann, “truth is I’m tiiiiedd” lol and there is so much to do.  And even in my tiredness I get some type of joy in having my husband come home to a clean house even if he doesn’t see all the details. Not to mention since the last time I wrote a blog I’ve gotten a full time job, moved into a new place, and officially moved to Jacksonville (I drove back and forth the first 2 months). New city, new home, new husband, new job, new church, making new friends all while trying to keep up with Coach Jaleesa (whatever that is these days lol) and not neglecting those who have been there since day one. I’m trying to find my new normal…I haven’t ...

To my husband, who has read every single word I’ve written—even the ones I didn’t want you to read. Thank you for knowing every detail of my life and still choosing to love me. Your support means so much to me and I’m so grateful to God to be your wife. You are my best friend and a gift that keeps on giving. You were worth the wait, the heartache and the disappoint of the past. I appreciate you for loving the broken little girl, the confused adolescent and the woman I am becoming. I love you baby! Meet The Robinsons *ba-dum ba-dum ba-dum* The sound of his heart as I lay on his chest. This is really my life! I get to wake up to this fine bald headed man every morning. His alarm goes off and I peek from under the covers to watch him prepare for the day. As soon as he gets up I roll over to his side of the bed so I can enjoy his scent a little while longer. I can tell time by him because his routine is the same every morning. We make small talk as he gets ready to de...

I talked myself in and out of this topic about three times before I opened my laptop to write. Before I get into this topic, I want you all to know I talked to my ex about what I was sharing. We are still friends, I still think he is a great guy, and I don’t have any regrets about that relationship. We don’t men/ex bash over here. What’s on your mind? The question that Facebook has always asked. The question that is sometimes filled with the truth and for others what they wish their truth was. You don’t have to stunt for the book…We know you in real life lol. I have seen relationships begin and end. I’ve seen job promotions and the start of new businesses. I have watched friends carry their babies for 9 months and I’ve seen those same babies get ready for their first day of school. I have cried with Facebook friends as they have had to bury loved ones, celebrated with them as they have moved, graduated and got a new car. I’ve seen the weight loss pics, the sweating in the gym ...

It’s FRIDAYYYYYYYYYYYYYY! Unfortunately, that doesn’t mean much to me since every day is a party lol. I intended to finish this post last week but the way my schedule was set up I couldn’t even sit still long enough to type….but without further delay!  Before I get started I just want you to know I’m not shallow…ok thanks. Is it me or does it seem like people who are married tell single folk to not put so much emphasis on looks. Yettttt, all the while, their spouses are attractive. So it’s ok for your boo to be fine but mine gotta look like gum on a sidewalk as long as he loves the Lord?? Ok, I went too far. But seriously, I’m tired of hearing people say looks aren’t everything because they will fade…looks don’t matter…get you someone who will treat you right…blah blah blah. You know what? Looks aren’t EVERYTHING but who said we had to substitute good looks for a great personality? Is it not possible for someone to be beautiful/handsome and treat you well? I know plenty of peo...